build(cmake): clean up presets, add release/apple presets, cross-platform triplets

Rationalize the preset set to match the project's actual state (past M5):
- Rename dev->skeleton (no-deps stub smoke), m1-dev->dev (default dev preset)
- Drop m2-dev (cache-identical to m1-dev)
- Add release preset (optimized + tests on, symbols kept)
- Strip server-release binaries (-s linker flag)
- Add apple-dev/apple-ios/apple-ios-sim scaffolding presets for XCFramework

Add cmake/voicecat-toolchain.cmake wrapper that auto-resolves the vcpkg
triplet from the host platform (x64-mingw-static/x64-linux/arm64-osx) so
the main presets work on Windows/Linux/macOS without per-OS variants.

Update all docs (building.md, CLAUDE.md, README.md, AGENTS.md, deployment.md,
tech-stack.md, client READMEs) and stale preset-name references in code
comments. No C++ behavior changes — the core was already portable.

docs/tech-stack.md

@@ -58,7 +58,7 @@ explicit resampling (speexdsp/libsamplerate) is only needed when a device can't
 | Tool | Use |
 |------|-----|
 | **CMake** (3.25+) | One build graph for core + server + test CLI; UI projects consume the built core. |
-| **vcpkg** (manifest mode) | Pin C/C++ deps (opus, libsodium, mbedtls, protobuf, sqlite3, spdlog, asio, miniaudio — see `vcpkg.json`). `webrtc-audio-processing`/`speexdsp` are **not** in the manifest: no working vcpkg port / no working Windows/MSVC build exists upstream for the former; the latter was never actually wired up (the lightweight VAD needs no resampler). Reproducible across OSes. |
+| **vcpkg** (manifest mode) | Pin C/C++ deps (opus, libsodium, mbedtls, protobuf, sqlite3, spdlog, asio, miniaudio — see `vcpkg.json`). `webrtc-audio-processing`/`speexdsp` are **not** in the manifest: no working vcpkg port / no working Windows/MSVC build exists upstream for the former; the latter was never actually wired up (the lightweight VAD needs no resampler). Reproducible across OSes. Triplet auto-resolved from the host platform by [`cmake/voicecat-toolchain.cmake`](../cmake/voicecat-toolchain.cmake) — `x64-mingw-static` on Windows, `x64-linux` on Linux, `arm64-osx` on Apple Silicon. Apple platform scaffolding presets (`apple-dev`/`apple-ios`/`apple-ios-sim`) produce static `libvoicecat.a` slices for XCFramework consumption. |
 | **protoc** | Generate C++/C#/Swift from `core/proto/*.proto` (single source of truth). |
 | **clang-format / clang-tidy** | Style + static analysis on the core. |
 | **CTest + a fuzz target** | Unit/integration tests; fuzz the frame parser and protobuf boundary (security-sensitive). |